Outgrowing Cultural Beliefs?...
Hi guys,
It's been a while but baby girl is back, two days ago i was on twitter and i saw a trend of a newly wedded bride who posted these on her page " Speaking of submission, doing my yoruba engagement, my husband and i told the Alagas to not use that word or ask me to kneel for him. Everyone told me that it wouldn't be possible because, culture. But guess whose kneels didn't touch the ground? "
Good for you girl but i was more interested with the comment section and while going through, i was convinced that there were two stories been told here. One is by the bride with a feminist belief and the other is by the public out growing cultural beliefs.
In Nigeria we have more than 250 ethnic tribes which leads to different cultural beliefs. The three largest and most dominant ethnic groups are the Yoruba, Hausa and Igbo. Culture is traditionally the oldest human character, it is based on arbitrary assigned meanings that are shared by a society. It is learned and shared within social groups and is transmitted by nongenetic means.
In Nigeria the yoruba tribe also have their culture which they follow during traditional ceremonies. And one part of it is for the bride to kneel down and serve her husband. In the olden days this was how the wives serve their husbands food. To show respect and basically let their husband know that He is the head of the family. Patriarchy social system were been practiced doing that time.
However in the 21st century with globalisation and enlightenment individuals pespectives has been influenced. Patriarchy social system is still been practiced but just in a modernised way. Women are beginning to find their voice in the society (thank God😊) and also in their marriages. Women have a say in their home, at the work
place, and basically have a say on how they choose to live their lives.
Also read Unbalanced Livelihood
Now this is what I think....we cant strap all our cultural beliefs just because we think we are now enlightened, some should definately be changed. No matter how developed we think we are, there are some cultural beliefs that should never be abandoned or change because those cultural beliefs keeps us together and remind us of were we come from. Respect should be given to the elders, some wedding rights should be still be practiced. In the case of the bride who thinks kneeling for husband on her traditional engagements means dominance, i dissagree. That does not make you a slave or be on your kneels whenever you want to serve him his food. That part of traditional engagements is fun to do. There are so many fun cultural things we have and should not be strapped.
I would love to know what you think in the comment section #Beconcerned
Thank you...
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It's been a while but baby girl is back, two days ago i was on twitter and i saw a trend of a newly wedded bride who posted these on her page " Speaking of submission, doing my yoruba engagement, my husband and i told the Alagas to not use that word or ask me to kneel for him. Everyone told me that it wouldn't be possible because, culture. But guess whose kneels didn't touch the ground? "
Good for you girl but i was more interested with the comment section and while going through, i was convinced that there were two stories been told here. One is by the bride with a feminist belief and the other is by the public out growing cultural beliefs.
In Nigeria we have more than 250 ethnic tribes which leads to different cultural beliefs. The three largest and most dominant ethnic groups are the Yoruba, Hausa and Igbo. Culture is traditionally the oldest human character, it is based on arbitrary assigned meanings that are shared by a society. It is learned and shared within social groups and is transmitted by nongenetic means.
In Nigeria the yoruba tribe also have their culture which they follow during traditional ceremonies. And one part of it is for the bride to kneel down and serve her husband. In the olden days this was how the wives serve their husbands food. To show respect and basically let their husband know that He is the head of the family. Patriarchy social system were been practiced doing that time.
However in the 21st century with globalisation and enlightenment individuals pespectives has been influenced. Patriarchy social system is still been practiced but just in a modernised way. Women are beginning to find their voice in the society (thank God😊) and also in their marriages. Women have a say in their home, at the work
Also read Unbalanced Livelihood
Now this is what I think....we cant strap all our cultural beliefs just because we think we are now enlightened, some should definately be changed. No matter how developed we think we are, there are some cultural beliefs that should never be abandoned or change because those cultural beliefs keeps us together and remind us of were we come from. Respect should be given to the elders, some wedding rights should be still be practiced. In the case of the bride who thinks kneeling for husband on her traditional engagements means dominance, i dissagree. That does not make you a slave or be on your kneels whenever you want to serve him his food. That part of traditional engagements is fun to do. There are so many fun cultural things we have and should not be strapped.
I would love to know what you think in the comment section #Beconcerned
Thank you...
Enjoy Forget Societal Ills Women Face and Try...
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